AL in my first posts comments wrote:
right, so back on the whole:
– getting together/breaking up/getting together/how it all got sorted
– no contact rule & reasoning
– why ‘closure’ is lame and potentially relationship defeating
This arose over at Aoefe’s blog http://sexliestruth.blogspot.com/ we were discussing “closure” and i wrote:
i have to wonder how many budding relationships have been nipped prematurely in the bud by this silly female need for “closure” like i told you before, my husband and i broke up several times before becoming official gf/bf, some with real breakups, some with contact dwindling etc–if i had pushed for “closure” with some big talk–would we have gotten back together that final time that because permanent?
here’s an instructional video on how NOT to let your “hamster” as they call it in the Roissy-sphere destroy a budding relationship! watch as this girl’s control freak need to know what’s going on ruins her life
This is exactly what i’m talking about–they aren’t married–he’s just a “boyfriend”–they don’t even live together, yet she is ginning up an obligation on his part that DOESN’T EXIST YET and running off a cliff with it!