There has to be a fundamental reason why so many middle class women are choosing men who seem for all intents and purposes to be ideal husband material only to be consistently unhappy and disappointed. Why do so many women become so disillusioned sexually with the perfectly good “provider” types that they find? Many blame it on the current philosophical zeitgeist or feminism or the cock carousel, but I’ve come to the conclusion that something else has happened to short-circuit what is really the perfectly rational process by which women are choosing their husbands.
The problem is that women are choosing beta providers based on the explicit ability to earn money in TODAY’S feminized workplace and not by the BIOLOGICAL MARKERS of a “provider” we evolved to discern. Humans didn’t always provide for their families en masse with earned MONEY, but with the ability to provide actual food obtained either by dint of hard physical labor growing the food or violent hunting and slaughter. In hunter-gatherer tribes, where men hunt communally, success at the hunt depended on being able to work with OTHER MEN, and one’s share is often determined by a complex web of obligations and status derived from one’s place in the hierarchy of Men. When men switched to indoor work for pay, the workplace emulated this male power dynamic–social dominance, obligation leveraging and status seeking.
In the world of most work today its more likely a man got into a DECENT earning position (not necessarily super high, but high enough to financially support a family) NOT by being socially dominant or physically adept but by being a “team player” who is able to go along to get along, particularly those able to mesh well with FEMALE co-workers and higher-ups. By looking at modern wallet size instead of the more primitive traits of dominance and physicality women are simply relying upon the wrong metric.
Let’s call it “Hypergamy Error”–a type of cultural synecdoche by which women mistake ONE of a set of markers for “optimal mate” for the total package her attraction system requires.